Thursday, December 23, 2010

The Art Of Saying No

I wonder what is difficult to say “YES” or “NO”

Taking things as it comes is one way of living with YES but sifting through things and saying NO to the things which we think are not sustainable, wanted or may be doesn’t feel right is more difficult job to do.

The latter requires honest analysis of our needs and differentiates it from the wants.

So what you want now may not be needed for lifetime. Though these enticing wants have the tendency to overpower the rationality sometimes and appear as illusionary needs.

There are many features I believe are associated with a want...

Instant gratification (I want to Smoke...)
Ego (I want to show it to the World…)
Social Acceptance (I want to have/be the best…)
Uncertainty ( Most of the time they manage to fake Certainty and Security)
Whimsical (Nebulous in nature/they lack precision)
And when I try to evaluate Needs they have no such taboo attached to them. They are simple and are most of the time sustainable, sturdy (this is one characteristic I really liked about a Need, they have the capability to imbibe passion in us to achieve it) and precise.

So next time when/if you have this altercation in your head if you should pursue it or leave it...

Give it a little thought before you say... YES or NO

Saturday, December 4, 2010

Paisa Paisa..!

Marriages are made in Heaven they are just brought to life on Earth. Really?
I recently have had an opportunity to witness one more beautiful life coming into existence.
I was amazed, shocked and stunned by the mode of conception though. It was a literal rape of lifelong savings of so called the facilitators (in this case parent!) and the most bemusing thing was they were more than happy to let go of it. One of the most celebrated cultural celebrations called “Marriage” suddenly looked so shallow inspite of them burning their deep pockets for it.
I have no complaints whatsoever for taking care of us so adequately offering us an accommodation in a luxurious seven star resort, booking ball room, club house, pool and inviting the best chefs to serve us day and night. Of course who would deny the sumptuousness of enjoying these A Class FREE Services?
But I was just wondering why did they unnecessarily booked ball room, club house for us (especially when the customised itinerary brochure placed next to complimentary exquisite chocolate boxes in our rooms showed packed schedule for attendees) and when more than half of the attendees were people past 45 years of age who wouldn’t even know what Ball Room Dancing is..
Neways I tried to ignore it considering myself naïve to appreciate such sophistications.
The decoration was no doubt one of the best I have seen but if they wanted to change the look of the entire place why did they even cared to pay so much for the venue. That look could have been emulated anywhere else also. Isn’t it a little weird (like asking the bride to paste a sticker of “BRIDE” so that people can make out she is meant to be treated differently).
Anyways on the THE day when all of us (other than their close relatives) had some part to play unlike the time they coaxed us modestly to be attendee in all their marriage rituals I was overwhelmed by the procession. The groom along with his coterie was welcomed with rose shower, fireworks and exotic drinks coz he had come all the way from the adjacent villas to the garden with great pomp and show. The decibels of the happiness soared so high that it literally made me deaf for a minute.
I thought it was momentary unless I realised there was a Live Band called from Videsh (relie would they know what an Indian wedding is..!) to entertain us throughout the procession.
It was kind of getting difficult to recognise people loaded with jewels and consuming make-up that I literally had to add a layer extra just to save myself from standing out( in the reverse way) in the crowd.
Then arrived the BRIDE, dazzling from head to toe with attire so heavy for her to handle that her friends and cousins had to come to save her from her self invited agony.
And finally came the moment all of us were waiting for... , our moment of Glory when we will share the same stage as them where they had been smiling incessantly to thank all the GUESTS seem to be blessing and Congratulating them.
I heard “THAANK YOU” but…
I realised I never congratulated them as I was jostled by an overexcited Aunty who seemed to be trying hard since so long to make it into their wedding ALBUM…

PS: But nevertheless I still have full faith in the institution called Marriage san the feigned display of LUXURY. Though looking forward to enjoy more such free services :P

Monday, November 29, 2010

Where will you hide!

Sometimes hiding seems so difficult especially if it’s from your own self.
The ubiquity of self presence takes a toll on your desire to reason it out, no matter where ever you go the constant banging in your head harass you like a psychotic stalker ready to gouge out the last impression of ignorance left.

Thursday, November 25, 2010

36*78 feet

Yup that’s the size of a tennis court.
Just got done with an amazing book Open, autobiography of Andre Agassi.
Must tell you the book was damn addictive.
I really loved the simple, candid and honest writing style of Agassi.
He did full justice to the title of the book. Wanted to take everybody through the book through this post but I would rather suggest people to read it. Though would like to share couple of points which I have noted down for myself.

1. Pressure is how you know everything is Working

2. Control what you can Control (I fell in love with this)

3. What you feel doesn’t matter in the end; it’s what you do that makes you brave

4. At different stages I sip different versions, each a different colour. Pink for energy, red for recovery, brown for replenishment.

5. Stefanie kisses me and says nothing, because there’s nothing to say.
(Most intimate line I’ve ever read)

6. I’m calmed, grounded, inspired by watching a craftsman. It reminds me of the singular importance. in this world of a job done well.
(Respect for everybody’s work, we sure have things to learn from everybody we meet)

7. His inability to remain impartial is endlessly charming. (His father!)

8. My memory isn’t like my tennis bag; I have no say over its contents.

9. My pugnacious bride. She tries a smile but it ends up a wince. I see in her face everything she wants to say but will not let herself say. I hear every word she refuses to utter. (Love)

10. I let him think the crowd is cheering for both of us.
(For his opponent in his Last match. Confidence!)

11. Desperation the most powerful drug.

12. He hates me, and I hate him, and now we’re sneering and snarling and trying to wrest this thing from each other.(Respect)

13. That’s the definition of being rich: it doesn’t cross your mind to mention it to your best friend. And money is such a given you don’t care how you come by it.(Friendship)

14. Andre and you’ve made yours. I guess that leaves me on my own.(Friendship)

15. My father doesn’t want to limit me, or break me, or ruin me. So he’s banishing me. He’s sending me away, partly to protect me from himself.(Love)

16. He’s always been there, at my back, and now he won’t be. I feel abandoned. I thought the one thing I wanted was to be free of him, and now that he’s sending me away, I’m heartbroken.
(When he was finally going away from his father whom he always hated for making him work so much)

17. My father drives me to the airport. My mother wants to go but can’t miss a day of work.
(Responsibility!, when his mother was not even sure if he will come back in near future)

18. A win doesn’t feel as good as a loss feels bad, and the good feeling doesn’t last as long as the bad. Not even close.

19. You always try to be perfect, he says, and you always fall short, and it fucks with your head. Your confidence is shot, and perfectionism is the reason. You try to hit a winner on
Every ball, when just being steady, consistent, meat and potatoes, would be enough to win.Ninety percent of the time. You don’t have to be the best in the world every time you go out there. You just have to be better than one guy. Instead of you succeeding, make him fail.You’re making everyone around you miserable. You’re making yourself miserable. Perfection? There’s about five times a year you wake up perfect, when you can’t lose to anybody, but it’s not those five times a year that make a tennis player. Or a human being, for that matter. It’s the other times. It’s all about your head, man. With your talent, if you’re fifty percent game-wise, but ninety-five percent headwise, you’re going to win. But if you’re ninety-five percent game-wise and fifty percent headwise, you’re going to lose, lose, lose.
(Perfectionism is tiring and unnecessary all the time! His coach whom he met for the first time giving opinion on his game)

22. This contradiction between what I want to do and what I actually do, feels like the core of my life.(The biggest question )

23. Thinking, my father believes, is the source of all bad things, because thinking is the opposite of doing.

24. I loved the concept of hard work leading to sweet rewards—except when hard work meant hitting tennis balls.

25. When you know that you just took the other guy’s best punch, and you’re still standing, and the other guy knows it, you will rip the heart right out of him.(Blister on an opponent’s mind)

26. The whole place looks a lot better from a distance. What doesn’t?

27. No. Absolutely not. Help from him comes with a cost. I’m trying to break free of him.
(Dilemma to ask for help from his father)

28. To be inspired, I tell Philly—that’s the secret.

29. I don’t know. But you will. This is a momentary crisis, Andre. One of many. As sure as we’re sitting here, there will be others. Bigger, smaller, and everything in between. Treat this crisis as practice for the next crisis.(Words of Wisdom, nothing we experience goes waste, even crisis)

30. I learn about myself, create myself, through imitation. How else could I do it? (Honesty, we choose to make ourselves)

31. I’m astonished by how much they care. I’m astonished by how much I care that they get it right.(Honesty, on media)

32. How beautiful to dream. But dreams, I tell Gil, in one of our quiet moments, are so damned tiring.

33. She fixes delicious meals at night, and in the morning she packs box lunches for me to bring to the practice courts.

34. It’s not selfishness on her part, just a mistaken impression that winning is normal, losing is abnormal.(Both are normal)

35. Pride is bad, stress is good. I don’t want to feel confident. I want to feel rage. Endless, all-consuming rage.(Summer of Revenge)

36. In the long, losing struggle with myself, I’m tanking.(Incessant altercation with your own self)

37. This is the only perfection there is, the perfection of helping others

38. Love is how we grow up.

39. Decisions, especially bad ones, create their own kind of momentum, and momentum can be a bitch to stop, as every athlete knows. The minds of the everlasting gods are not changed suddenly.(To master our Momentum is all that is required)

40. It’s embarrassing, but necessary, because I don’t want to lose her, I’ve had enough losing, and I know if I’m honest she’ll give me a second chance.(Confession)

41. She says that she’s sorry I’m suffering, but she can’t solve it. She can’t fix me. I need to fix myself. By myself.(Realisation)

42. If you’re heartbroken, Gil says, don’t hide from it. Wallow in it. We hurt, he says, so let’s hurt.

Sunday, November 14, 2010


The fight shouldnt be to be the BEST from being GOOD, instead it shd be from being GOOD to GOOD ENOUGH...

Friday, November 12, 2010

Change Is Good

Sometimes the importance of change seems so indispensible coz when it doesn’t happen it brings one’s life to a standstill.
It is like a check which sometimes act as a tough teacher asking you to hold on to your believes and directs you to move on in life even though you would want to stick to your current state but it renders you helpless and introduces dynamism in the ecosystem which forcefully makes you to wake up from your pseudo slumber and shake your illusionary world.
Most of us find it difficult to take this lesson the easier way but some of us toil and take it on.
Even with those flimsy and shaken believes intentionally/unintentionally we rebound. There is nothing which can be done to stop it from doing its work. Just nothing…
So when next time if you are going through rough or not so welcoming CHANGE, stop, think and THANK GOD for blessing you with a tough teacher. The more you interact with it the more you get an option and a reason to learn about yourself.

Bad Change Is Good
And also
It is always easier said than Done..! :-)

Thursday, November 11, 2010


Quite often we tend to indulge ourselves in expressions.
Our expression or as Dictionary defines it “thought communicated” are more or less influenced by the people around us. So, expressions are most of the times relative and not absolute.
When I sometimes try to sift through things which should be kept closed or which should be expressed I feel the lack of absolutivity in my thought process coz we always want to express things the way we say, we believe and we feel about others and we seek it from them for the same reason.
So if I take out everybody else from my life then probably I guess I’ll be “Expressionless”.

Monday, October 25, 2010


Not relie a bag fan of them but somehow find this tribe the most difficult to woo.
They are outspoken they want their things to be done the way they want and comprehend in their little mind. If not done that way they will cry/make noise/fight and make their challenger surrender.
I sometime wonder are they stronger than us (obviously I am talking of mental strength).
We grow up and gain physical strength but do we grow mentally also with the same rate. Why and when is this development hindered/affected .Does too much of reasoning/analysis and facts impedes this growth.
Obviously in their case the cost of failure is minimal but are we also that Rich yet to worry so much about the cost.

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Why Cynicism is Good..!

You decide your own virtues; you detach yourself from all predefined/set ideas of luxuries, you remove the clutter from your life and lead a life in sync with nature.
You define your possessions and not the other way round.
I wonder Y cynicism is taken a negative trait then. Is living by your own choice and defining your own rules not a good thing.
Y is appeasing the so called “SOCIETY” is so important. The best quality of a cynic is Shamelessness.
If you can’t be one try getting in touch with one.
They can be your magic MIRROR sometimes.

Monday, August 30, 2010


Spontaneity is supposedly a sign of an active and impulsive mind where the mind doesn’t allow thinking but act.
Thinking about the possible outcomes and then acting judiciously, consciously is one way of dealing with things and the other way is to just let things take its course.
Which is a better option to go for?
Spontaneity obviously involves greater risk and uncertainty whereas weighing the pros and cons of your actions and then acting is a safer option at least you save yourself from obvious blunders.
We have been programmed to think and then act wisely right from our childhood.
1. Follow your time table and study! (And of course most of us managed to score decent marks)
2. Follow the trend and opt for subjects! (And hence most of us opted for what others were going for)
3. Follow the companies and apply for the best one.
Crux: Follow the safest path and make sure you don’t make mistakes. Invest time in thinking and then join the race. Make sure somebody has already taken that path and it sure has greater possibility of taking you to your coveted destination.
Spontaneity: Follow your heart and just do it! Take a leap of faith in yourself and go for it. Feel that rush. Allow yourself to commit mistakes and if things go wrong feel Bad for it. Negative feelings are just overhyped don’t worry! Invest time in doing and if you don’t reach your destination at least you will know you can start on your own as well and don’t need to always follow others.
Sometimes Spontaneity is good! :-)

Friday, August 13, 2010

Happy Independence Day!

Earlier the day was important coz it meant yummy ladoos from school the only hurdle was to get up early and dress tidily even on the Day when elder siblings were still sleeping and enjoying their college/work holiday.
Then eventually it promised lot of dance, drama and cultural event practice in school (teachers made it compulsory for junior students and we loved it!) as it meant officially bunking so many boring classes for nothing but practice, cramming patriotic dialogues of Bhagat Singh, Mahatma Gandhi . Glorifying their heroic deeds and the mettle. Independence Day was such a fun day with colorful dresses and tricolors!
Then we came to college and omg Independence Day meant no attendance, lectures and more time to hang out with friends, and now again when we are working Independence Day is like a boon to the Monday-Friday 8-7 life, only if it doesn’t fall on a weekend. That feels like such a waste... (Which it is this time!)

Neways, the point is quite LITERALLY we do celebrate Independence Day every year, freedom from our daily job /routine and rules and to live this day as per our wishes and probably we will continue to do so irrespective of the fact that this day is so much more than that.(which some of us realise and many of us dont)
This year also I expected to feel the same but just then my heart sank in to read about the huge corruption scam lingering CWG ,speculated terror attack on India, tribal girl raped in front of villagers,
Turmoil in Kashmir, Politicians fighting over naxals!
And I shivered is India actually free?

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Are choices good!

Just when you have decided on one thing the prospect of other options overpowers your logical sense and leaves you bemused. Sometimes, I wonder had their been no choices available Life would have been much simpler and we would have achieved a lot more then what we end up getting now.
Most of our times these days go into deciding what we want (which itself is the most difficult question to answer) and which option to choose from. The whole exercise of analyzing (sometime) and deciding (no other option) leaves us with no energy to proceed further and hence we blame it on the chosen option.
Sometimes, I wonder these choices instead of making us strong have made us weak and vulnerable. We tend to question our decision every now and then and hence the need of somebody approving our decision becomes indispensible (after all we do seek approval and assurance), no wonder every body is trying to do and compete over the same thing( crowd approves of the decision)
And, probably that is why we have so many helplines→consultants→pshyciatrists mushrooming suddenly.

But On the brighter side of it no other way would have helped to inculcate managerial skills in us in a better way. It doesn’t matter which option you choose or what approval/assurance you seek as long as you are getting the results (again result is relative/u define results as what everybody else thinks the result should be). There is no good or bad way of doing things in management there is only two definitions which works here pass or fail.
So it doesn’t matter even if you have chosen the wisest of path but if u still couldn’t get results you have made a BAD decision.
So, the point here is choices are just illusion we still are following the same rules and we still know what we are going to decide(safe and approved) it’s just the gestation which has widened.

Wednesday, June 30, 2010


When is the last time you experienced the Power of U!
Somebody appreciated you not for any amount of accomplishments you have achieved or for the conventional unconventional aspirations you hold from your life but just for your mere existence, the fact that you are there sharing a moment of your life with him.
No amount of expectations and no room for assumptions! Just enjoying and living the moment with utmost sincerity and contentment.
Making the harmony gratifying enough, no words exchanged and no smiles shared.
That’s Ecstasy and that’s Life! You just never know how small and petty things can reward you sometimes.
Sincere thanks to the construction worker I shared a cup of tea with. He made me Happy for being “ME”

Wednesday, June 23, 2010


How bad do you what things in life? Or to put it right do you know what you want in life and to what extent are you ready to pay for it.
This defines the passion for the thing. You are just ready to pay anything for it.
By paying of course I don’t mean something which you can afford but it simply means things which will take away a part of YOU and will be difficult to part with. Does passion means madness, is madness good? However irrational and illogical it is.
So many people I see, observe and follow have achieved things they are proud of, things they always wanted to do, things they have toiled for. And every time I saw them it always looked and felt good. To see them there, right at the helm of success. What remained hidden all this while was the price they must have paid for it. The ethereal/intangible things in life they have compromised or parted with.
Are you Passionate enough is the question here. Can you take that leap of faith and pay whatever it takes. Can it be build/worked on or is it something you either have or U don’t.

Tuesday, June 22, 2010


Saturday, June 12, 2010

It’s when you lose all hope you become Free: Fight Club!

OMG! Been long when anything sounded so real than this..
Watched Fight club, the movie is fab!
And it came at such a right time just when I was thinking Y cannot I not THINK! When will I be Free?
Knowing what you want and going after it is all this life is worth for, it will involve a hell lot of pain but two minutes before you die and when you can see the snippets of your life before your eyes, u wont regret going through that pain.
Strongly recommended for those who haven’t seen it yet! Talks about Power of Mind and most importantly Power of YOU..

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Y do you always seek companionship!

Y does heart always seeks companionship? What sort of high do we get to be with someone especially when in the back of our mind we know this courtship might just be an illusion and can end up at any point in time? Is der something else besides all those chemical/biological reactions taking place inside us which governs our believes/actions.
Nothing lasts forever, everything is subjected t0 change, the notion that this change will bring something good seem to shatter so many times but still we keep lingering to it.
Is it what we call optimism or is it just a way to run away from reality? Is it why people have come up with the idea of “Living in the moment”, what exactly matters in the end, what is that never changes. Is the art of adapting to these changes called being realistic/practical. I wonder why pessimism has so many negative connotation attached to it inspite of having a sound logical reason attached to it.
Y after putting up an act of being practical so efficiently the core doesn’t budge and still seem to remain the same. Why does the core remain the same inspite of braving so many changes? Sometime I wonder do we actually “CHANGE” or is it just the plot which changes and makes us play different roles. Who actually have the power to change this plots/scenarios.Whos playing the role of director here/who’s plotting us and what does he gets out of it?
I’ve seen people assuming GOD as the supreme power and I wonder what is GOD!
And y does he always wants us to plead before him or be thankful to him.Y can’t he be someone like you and me who could be cursed and who could go wrong. Who has the power to penalise in case he goes wrong.Y is he called the supreme power!
It is us who go through all the changes he put us into and yet he takes away the credit of being GOOD/BAD to take us through happy/sad times. Y den when things are so out of our power and we do not have any say in the happening/not happening of events we expect things/companionship to stay the way it is. Are we mere actors being paid/taxed for our good/bad performances.

Monday, May 31, 2010

Show Me the Money!

Well just when I got quite convinced about the quality and affordability of education today in India after reading one of the news headlines broadcasting selection in IIT-JEE entrance of all 30 students in a coaching institute in Patna (Bihar)
I was completely taken aback by the fees structure of the institutes back home in Jaipur/Kota. These places are supposedly considered as Grounding Havens for IIT-JEE and other engineering Entrance Exams, students from all over India Flock every year at these Havens with the dream of making it to IITs/NITs?
Every Year these private institutes seem to get bigger and bigger with their flashy advertisements, promoting their selected students and over-hyped faculty members. They seem to excel in the art of alluring ignorant parents and over enthusiastic aspiring students with their myriad courses claiming to be better than the other only if you can afford to pay more. The only rebate which you can get from such soaring course charges is when you are one of those school/board toppers who have scored more then 94-96% in BOARDS.
So, the students who happen to realize a bit late and dint score well in Boards are doomed to pay more for their late realizations.
I wonder how in today’s regulated world where media plays such a crucial and active role of a vigilant Watchdog these institutes have the audacity to charge such exorbitant prices for their courses. They have crossed every limit to torture the already bleeding working class with such hefty demands. Parents left with no choice end up borrowing and taking loans to make their child’s dream of getting into good institutes a reality and also to save their child from going through the embarrassment of being called “POOR” and being “Mocked AT “by his friends. Such is the power of MONEY (even if charged irrationally)

These institutes have managed to commercialize the teaching profession so much that in days to come I wont be surprised to see one of these entities getting onto Most Profitable Businesses List.

Bansal Classes 2 Year Course During Class XI Rs. 66500/- + Service Tax(as applicable)
1 Year Course
Rs. 67000/- + Service Tax(as applicable) + Rs.1000/- as Caution Money (Refundable on submission of photocopy of IITJEE-2011 application form.)
3 month Course Rs. 47,326/-[ Basic Fees Rs. 42000/- + Service Tax @ 10.30% + Rs. 1000/- Caution Money (Refundable) ]

FIIT-JEE 2 Year Course
The total amount payable after Service Tax is
Rs. 244806.0

1 year Course
Rs.81005.0 (including Service Tax)

These are some of the course fees details I collected to sneak a quick look into the problem. Not just these two SUCCESSFUL institutes but lot others are charging more or less the same amount from each student who after paying this amount will be made to share the study space with 45-50 other fellow aspirants studying in the same batch as his, getting groomed by so called the BEST FACULTY, teaching round the clock, taking around four-five such batches in a day.

Thursday, May 20, 2010

“Over popularity: Devalue the currency”

Not just literally but in our day to day life as well, things which are easily available and are popular holds no/less value and unless and until you toil/fight for it the sense of achievement lacks in the possession and hence you tend to derail its importance.
Is this an irrational default setting in our mind or is it justified!
Why do we always appreciate things more which are difficult to achieve and not the things which are easily available and are equally important/or may be more sometime.
How often do we appreciate the taste of water just the way we do for a bottle of wine/whisky!
I might sound a bit weird here but Y does everything has some cost attached to it!Y isn’t things valued by its utility and importance alone.
Y do we get such high when we buy an expensive item and y does our confidence swells up with the mere association of exclusivity. This exclusivity is like a feather which differentiates us from the rest and thereby gives us visibility in the crowd.
Getting the best girl/smoking the best cigarette/getting a reputed job (mind it! No job is reputed unless they are paying you enough to compensate the everyday screwing you will go thru/so there’s a cost attached to you) writing the best blog /eating at the best place almost everything has a cost attached and hence you go shopping to feel good about the possession.
It’s plain and simple! The higher you reach in this possession ladder the more expensive you will become.
All other theories devised to explain the procurement are just sugar coated description of this simple fact. This process of valuation of things/relations and almost everything is something which I believe is their in our mind( it’s a default setting) , we do it without even knowing, it comes naturally until one day u wake up write a blog on it. This subconscious setting has been exploited by many marketers with their practice of “Subliminal Stimuli”; it’s a dimension and not dichotomy. They cannot exploit it openly coz otherwise it will throw away the whole mechanism of advertising which is to simulate believes unconsciously and thus not render the effect open to introspection.

I hope there’s some cost attached to this blog as well, and I manage to monetize it :)

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

The Art of communication!

What we gain and what we lose is the result of how well we communicate!
Lot has been spoken about Luck and Hard Work but I think the biggest culprit that decides ones fate/destiny is how well can one communicate!
I call it culprit here for the obvious reasons of me finding it difficult to exploit. Communication is an art which sometime demands exposing thy soul leaving it lie vulnerable in front of the receiver.
Communication which challenges you is the one that can either make your life right away or delay the process.To identify the right person, right time and right pitch is the most arduous task I’ve experienced till date. It manages to challenge your puffed up (bloated) confidence, it checks your mettle and sometime makes you feel powerless.
You don’t face these situations in your everyday life but when you do there’s no time to prepare, you just have to deliver coz the moment you think of pondering over it you just try to procrastinate the situation. It’s the time when you confront all your assumptions and thus the pseudo world of moderate environment you once created for your own comfort has the high probability of exploding.
Can you take that leap of faith in yourself is all that matters!Go live your assumptions for Real....

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

My Domain Name didn’t sell!

How many of us faced the problem of selling/buying things which we have no other way to sell but to filter out options from the pool of people we know and then personally know/meet the person to pitch our deal.
The whole process of finding right customer and the right seller is so troublesome and opaque that sometime you end getting into wrong transactions.
Lot of options many a times takes away the ability to think clearly, when your mind is cluttered with too many options you tend to splurge into everything and hence end up getting lost in the crowd.
I think so is happening with twitter/face book selling buying messages where people tend to get lost with their deals and end up collecting redundant comments spamming mailboxes with useless notifications.

Hell managing basic finances was not less tiresome for tyros like us, fresh out of college without any real time exposure of managing finances that this problem of finding house, furniture, gas and what not took away so much time and much needed respite from our lives needed after a long day at work. (Had I not been bunking classes in college and attending all my lectures sincerely I wouldn’t have had such hard time going for work everyday!)
Neways the whole point of putting it here loud out is:-
Are we missing classifieds??!
N yea regarding the title, I tried selling on face book one of the domain names I purchased but got no takers, just people with lot of questions and opinions on my activities!!!

Thursday, May 13, 2010

How much is too much..!

In this world of dynamic equations its difficult to know how much is too much!
Be it the job you are giving your time to, or the time you are spending introspecting about the whole gamut of future prospects u have in hand, u just cannot figure out where to put “THE” full stop. Every time you think you are done thinking there’s a different angle to the same problem you think is worth giving thought to and thus the process is never ending, there’s nothing which is segregated from the rest. Everything is just linked..!(I hope you are getting what m trying to say here: P, coz m not now..!)
Ok! Let me try simplify it with an example...
Since, I am stuck with social media these days. Let’s take an example from that.
When I see companies trying to use customer service platform to reach out to their customers (probable/existing), I see them over exploiting the same. There’s a thin line between making your customers aware of your services and overeducating them with it.
I believe companies should do their best to have a clear understanding of customer’s stated and actual needs and thus try to strike a right balance between reaching out to them too much or too little.
They seem to get just lost out on this understanding; they don’t know WHERE TO STOP!
Storming your customers with too many services/offerings every now and then can act as a real slip-up in terms of good customer experience.
Customer experience doesn’t end with customer stepping out of your shop/website after making payment but it sure stays there till the time the customer has the capacity to talk about your product/services.
So even when companies plan to make use of the customer details which they have/bought from vendors for their products they should get this thing very straight and clear that as soon as they make the first call to the client the “USER Experience “starts and the relationship is set between them(even if it doesnt get converted) and like in every relationship showering too much love (services) gives a very unrealistic/fishy feel to it, so do these calls.
Be selfish and give your customers a chance as well to show some affection.

So, next time when I get a call from HDFC! Congratulating me on getting personal loan sanctioned (which I never even applied for) or from Idea offering me the best talk plan on a SIM purchase( here also never showed any intention anywhere to buy one)I would know they don’t really love me they are just pretending to 

Did I manage to explain the real point I wanted to..?

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

TED Talk ON Social Networking

Will try to jolt down some Key points in case u feel lazy to see the whole thing!
He talked about:
1.Reason why we network( induction,homophily/confounding)
2.Emotional contagion
3.Very nice presentation/explanation of social behaviour with a great analogy drawn between chemical structure of Graphite and Diamond
4.Benefits of connected life/social network are social capital
I would still recommend all the "I am so busy" souls to have a look

Monday, May 10, 2010

Survival of the fittest!!

It seem, With plethora of portals coming up with the concept of user generated content the marketing executives are having hard time convincing people with their conventional practice of extra glam marketing pitch and strategies to buy their products.
Now the war to speculate/bet for the best adword, keyphrases are keeping them on their toes.Google no doubt should be complemented for their astute insight in the changing scenario of world economics. Does that mean in some time from now organisations will have a lateral hierarchy and not vertical where there will be one boss that is the END USER, and unless and until they make us happy there’s no way their beating around the bush can sustain their alluring lifestyles.
These portals have altogether changed the dynamics of marketing everywhere. Either you deliver what you promise or you’ll surely perish under your own weight. Statistics shows that product reviews scores highly over polished and well thought about strategic throws.
This has no doubt marginalised the room for opaque transactions and brought in transparency in the whole market. Does that mean we are taking well informed and wiser decisions now or does that mean they are playing with our NO RISK APETITE!
Watever it mite be! This is for sure making our shopping space a safer place to indulge in with the best experience offered.

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Social MediaII

Recently I lost my phone, was trying to check out some mobile phone communities on net which could help me with my quest to buy my next phone (yup unlike my earlier post)where I completely admonished the idea of consulting/checking hundreds of comments all the time which can help u in taking your decisions/and not commit mistakes.(which I think is important.neways!)

Out of all the ten communities I checked no one talked about the model I have in mind.

People were going gaga over pixels, 3G, 2G, sleekness, looks, color, sound, battery and what not. I felt like living in some tech world of geek God and Goddesses where everybody else knew about what they are talking about but me.

C’mon! from when a phone became such a major subject of discussion that people (mostly youngsters) are leaving no stone unturned to discuss its anatomy, from the body to the chip it uses.

Neways I noticed some fancy ads also alongside these “SERIOUSLY ECCENTRIC” communities, big banners promoting their latest geeky models with never heard and tempting marketing strategies in place to allure us with their latest product models having hundreds of features integrated thereby promising to make our lives more simpler, easy and hassle free( R U kidding me!!) After this I wonder what SIMPLE is...

So neways as my quest was still on by this time my mind got cluttered and clogged with too much of information (both good and bad!) that I decided to give up and directly call company’s customer service number to know about the model I wanted.

As soon as I called the customer care I heard a females voice, cheerful and gay extremely happy and grateful to get me on line (I don now Y, I din even place an order yet) as soon as I opened my mouth to speak something she in her “always happy” voice started tossing various offers/schemes her company has for me to MAKE MY LIFE SIMPLER that I was completely taken aback by the complexity of the whole process and decided to get through this ordeal and finally when we I got my chance to speak I enquired if they still have NOKIA 1100…..

The lady smirked and said

“MAm we no more manufacture those SIMPLE and unglamorous phone"

The only thing I did after the whole incident was to check number of communities on

Manmohan Singh” and I found this in the only community

Yea dude! He’s a great man

Sunday, May 2, 2010

Social MEDIA..

Humans are social ANIMALS.
Never been proved so right than now. The never ending quest to be accepted amongst peers is what driving me you and everybody else go crazy over twitter/face book/flicker...U name it and we are der flocking the platforms.
Giving/seeking opinions on things which interests/intrigues and yes intimidates us (if we risk crossing that boundary).
Social realists believe that people are primarily motivated through a combination of fear and self-interest. According to this view, the challenge of effective command is to align the enlightened self-interest of individuals with the overall goals of an organization. For these “social realists,” human beings are not naturally trustworthy, but will “defect” to act on their own behalf unless appropriately monitored. This group sees hierarchical controls as a natural, necessary, and efficient means for achieving order, clarity, and accountability.
What makes these portals so successful is their ability to come up with such tools/mechanisms which can envelop the real nature and present an idealistic condition to us, where we flock to help each other and act for a common good.
We always believe in ideals isn’t it! Its der on our mind all the time to be GOOD! There’s obviously nothing wrong about living in illusion after all its giving marketers these days hefty pay packages and we are getting things which everybody else also likes and probably must have tested. But don’t you think space for everybody else in our lives is taking too much of an importance.
Probably soon a time will come when we will be identified by the number of friends/contacts/fans/tweets/followers/scraps we have on our accounts or IS IT ALREADY DER?

Friday, April 23, 2010


Yet another one of those days at work where working means spending those fixed 9 hrs in front of your screen irrespective of work/no work in hand.

Pretending to the whole world how involved you are with your work and commitments towards your unknown yet beloved clients, sitting somewhere in their neat AC cabin and day and night thinking of cutting down cost to make his business looks more profitable.

Just when you think you are the only one pretending here and everybody else is working you tend to look up and see around to derive some inspiration from your colleagues but alas!

What you see is unfortunately is no surprise to you (though you pray to get that surprise someday)

Your colleagues are busy sending people good will messages/forwards, chatting with their pseudo long lost friends sitting in adjacent cabins and yet thinking of promotions, pay hikes and ill inhuman management practices prevalent in their organization.

I wonder Y cant they just give us the freedom to come/leave at our own will.

They do assert they believe in us, in our credibility for our work/commitment, in our ability to bring business for them then Y cant they just show it in their well documented policies as well and act accordingly.

Y cant they just believe in what they put forward.

Y is everything so synthetic and over the top, what kind of culture/decorum are they trying to inculcate when both sides are just making up the so called “Relationship”.

I believe there’s nothing wrong but we/even companies are just trying not to acknowledge the power of

“Self Discipline”

Let us take ownership of ourselves

Will put up one of my favorite quote here again by JIM MORRISON to summaries my point

“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask.”

Tuesday, March 30, 2010


Ever made a silent conversation?
Sounds a bit amusing but this conversation holds great power I believe.
It’s an experience in itself.
People come and people go, they make talks to show Who they are and what they can do, how did they reach here and where do they finally intend to go but ever felt the pleasure of not talking and yet knowing a person. What makes an individual is a question I seek answers to through this blog.
Is it his work, is it his visibility in the social framework or is it just him.
Does the face have so much relevance as the value attached to it? What if I don’t have any face, what if I failed to reach those milestones which otherwise anybody of my age would have easily reached and what if I am striving hard to keep myself away from that ease defined yet common life?
I believe Talking is just a way to sell. But what if you are not on sale/display.
Will you be able to sustain yourself on your own for the lifetime?
This elucidated definition of talking was just to give an insight into what does a normal conversation will do, that’s it will either help you to sell or buy something.
On the other hand silent conversation has nothing to offer but is always demanding.
This talk is the most selfish pitch an individual makes with a partner wherein he has nothing else to offer but himself. (No education/no attractive job profile/No hefty bank balance…NOTHING)