Disillusionment

Assumptions I believe have an immense power to lead you to a disillusioned life. Most of the times we thrive, fight and struggle to live our assumptions coz they appear to be in sync with our goals or desires but one stroke of reality can smash them to pieces.

Question is till when we can afford to vie for these assumptions coz the wait period to see them turn into reality is a very tenacious process with an undefined life cycle. Everything can’t be confirmed from day one and hence we tend to live with a set of self-defined conviction rules to take our assumptions forth, but there has to be some amount of clear checkpoints also along the course to testify the realism of our assumptions.

Now the bigger  question is are we disciplined enough and ready yet to accept those checkpoints which might direct us to stop the chase or are we happy to live a disillusioned life till we face bigger disappointments and realize we are already out of time!

 

The Dressing Room!

Fortunately or Unfortunately I couldn’t see the World Cup Final as I was travelling but I managed to experience the dressing room aura.. No of course not of players as they were busy playing but of our fellow audience gasped by the air of speculations for the World Cup winner.

Away from the stadium, big screens, TV or any other source to watch the match each one of my fellow traveler was cursing Railways for such a pathetic and underdeveloped services (Though I was travelling in Gareeb Rath).

Would like to quote some of their disgruntled dialogues

“Are yaar yey railway ko aaj toh kuch special karaana chaiyey tha!bengali me hi dikha dete match..”

Suddenly three of them got call at the same time..

“oho changa ji!bowling kar rahe hai?......saale srilanka toss kaise jeet gaye” “kya…awaaz nahi aa rahe ….kya?jeet gaye..are haan kon jeeta toss!” “Thank God we are bowling! India wins when they chase”

And the rest of us were just gazing them even after overhearing the conversation, wanted an assurance of what exactly is happening. So an announcement was made in the corridor that we lost the toss. Some of us started losing hope then and there only and some took it in a stride and continued with our discussions on National and International problems gripping India. After a span of 15 minutes somebody again got a call and got a score update. “Are yaar yey SriLanka toh accha khel rahe hai”

On this one old lady replied “Kya pata duniya kyun itni paagal hota hai matchoo per sab khareeda hua hota hai” Two of us nodded in unison and the journey continued.. “OHO Badiya bhai..run rate toh kaboo me hai, aise he khelenge toh jeet jaaenge hum” “Meri taraf se sab ko chai agar aglee ball per wicket gira toh”

All of us knew nobody is getting tea for sure but still we waited for the next ball update. I was watching a movie on my laptop when an Uncle came to me and asked if he can see the match on this, I humbly said no as I don’t have a plugin. Disappointed uncle: Are…tum logo ko jarurat nahi padte kya net ke? Me: Uncle office me toh hota hai DU: Hann lekin travelling ke time per koi emergency aa gaye toh? Emergency..blah!I could feel his pain of being away from the screen. So I decided to keep mum.

Just when Sri Lankans were batting for the final five overs and Power Play had started “Are yey kya naya natak hai PowerPlay ka,pata nahi jee kya kya naye rules laaagu kar dete hai…Humare zaamane me toh aisa kuch nahi hota tha” “Mujhe lagta hai aaj Sachin ka shatak lagega..””Haan lagana he padega usko” “Kya Bharosa jee ?munch munch…..chai chai chai..bhaiya ek chai dena..chai chai chai..” “Uncle score kya hua” “Phone he laga raha hoon bête” “Mama chips mama chips mammmmmma chips”……”kitna…kitna…kitnaaaaaaaa 274/6 ohoo khatam ho gaya na ab toh…..” “Are… 274 hai score”…there was a moment of silence..Not that we dint believe in our team’s capability but the idea of loosing looked a little too much..

Second Innings: Munni badnaam huii…”Haan Bol Sachin aa gaya…” everybody roared with claps and hope… “Kya ……kya Shewag OUT..” “Maine toh kaha tha paise khaaye hai” So the excitement mellowed down a little..”Are Sachin hee jita sakta hai aaj toh or koi nahi..!” “SACHIN OUT” Trust me everybody had lost hope for a second. “Haar gaye hum”..”Hum haar gaye jee” “Kuch nahi rakha hai is khel me ab” “Ab toh Yuvraj he baccha sakta hai” So everybody got back to their seats and thought of taking a nap instead. I took mine Munni badnaam hui….munni badnaam hui..”Haan bol Gambhir ke 97….badiya badiya..yehi ek khilaadi accha hai..” “maine toh pehle he kahaa tha sab paisa khaate hai” “Maine 2 laks laagaye he jee aaj ke match me” munch..munch..slurppppppppp “Tension se sir kharab ho raha hai”..”haan aaj toh kharaboo lage hai jee” But then supposedly we got back in game again and there was an atmosphere of hope jubiliation and tea bets again. Finally when we reached a situation where 7 was required of 11 balls people wanted to just get out of the train and dance infact some of us sported to celebrate then and there only with a cell phone playing and a Sardaar uncle dancing to its tune…. “HUM JEET GAYEEEEEEE…..”

Entire boggie was up and celebrating the win, phones ringing incessantly for once I got scared as I was worried some of us might jump out of the moving train in the moment of this utmost madness but fortunately we reached Ahmedabad ..everyone got down had tea at the station with Famous groundnuts and OMG what a feeling it was. Random people hugging each other, crying, screaming and just happy.. Somebody lost their bets some won but nevertheless everyone was happy and proud to be the part of this win.

I had heard quite many times this game has a huge impact on Indians for the first time I felt it... BRAVO…

Mantra!

Happened to be a part of very intriguing conversation with a friend, where I was asked to define mantra of my life. Considering it as one of those clichéd philosophical discussions where I’ll have to put everything I think or believe in under a scanner and give him a concise answer I ignored the question and changed my chat status from Available to Invisible.(of course net disconnect was my obvious refuge) But the question unfortunately again got stuck in my ever restless mind (which my other set of friends consider nothing but effect of trivial job I keep looking for unlike their big MNCs ones) So left with no choice but to think, these are the few things that popped in my mind.. 1. To learn (Bullshit! that can’t be my mantra, of course I do want to learn a lot many things but m not doing stuff JUST to learn) 2. To experiment (Yes, that’s thrilling to hear but would I be experimenting at the same rate the way I do now, considering the loads amount of desired and undesired responsibilities age brings with it ) 3. To help (Damn! Who cares after a point? And this comes after I had made an unsuccessful attempt to help some NGOs with my business insights(however little I have currently) ) 4. To create (Yes, that’s something I really enjoy but Gosh everything I think of is already there and has been created, is recreating the created ones going to count) 5. To earn (Yes for now it does give a sense of confidence and happiness but is that it is that what I want...) 6. To lead (I won’t mind if I manage to do something that somebody would like to follow me, considering it can’t happen overnight and it will come unless I shake my comfort zone every now and then and prove my worth) To travel, To Read, To Run (not literally of course)...I happened to think about a lot of other things but nothing seemed satisfactory and hence I left the thought process then and there. I think like everything else mantra for life also evolves with time .One shouldn’t stop keeping a check on the choices which one makes from time to time and feel sad, happy or contended about. For now I shortlisted Learn to Create as my mantra let’s see how long does it lasts for.

Education

While I spent couple of weeks away from the office and the normal discussions on career, growth, strategy, etc. what I realized all this while is Education simply doesn’t mean knowing what you plan to learn but I think the major aspect of Education is what you choose to unlearn while striving to learn things. At least most of the things which I find are quite realistic, practical and easy to implement in my day to day life are the ones I never paid any fees for/or gotten up early to attend lectures of.

Yes courses did channelize my thought process and they did sharpen my approach at micro level but at macro level it’s always things which I learnt while I was pursuing courses, job, socializing etc.. helped.

So I believe Learning and Unlearning both should be given due consideration while we define our growth.

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While I spent couple of weeks away from the office and the normal discussions on career, growth, strategy, etc. what I realized all this while is Education simply doesn’t mean knowing what you plan to learn but I think the major aspect of Education is what you choose to unlearn while striving to learn things. At least most of the things which I find are quite realistic, practical and easy to implement in my day to day life are the ones I never paid any fees for/or gotten  up early to attend lectures of.

Yes courses did channelize my thought process and they did sharpen my approach at micro level but at macro level it’s always things which I learnt while I was pursuing courses, job, socializing etc.. helped.

So I believe Learning and Unlearning both should be given due consideration while we define our growth.

 

Romance

"They live for love, die for love, kill

for love. It can be stronger than the drive to stay alive."

 

I wonder what is this drive and why is this so strong?What makes us go so loony over this.

Science says Dopamine(to give that adrenalin rush),serotonin( to bind) and caudate nuclei(for memory aka inertia), these three makes the feeling consuming. The process is initiated by  factors like (smell, taste…) leading to the insatiable desire for Good Genes and perfect nurturing Ground.(that’s how we are evolved)

 

This consious effort to rip off this obscured yet coveted practice was just to shed light on the powerful force behind it.

I cant deny the importance and indespensibilty of the NON-CHEMICAL factors involved after all they are the ones on our mind all the time and makes it more elusive.

But as I write this post many things seem to make sense to me like the importance and need of Reciprocity for the sustainability of a relationship(considering the chemical secretion involved) and also the NON-chemical factors involved which inherently leads to the same thing but again I still need to discover the reason behind the predominance of the latter.

I hate to define the entire process too mechanical but to accept it has some mechanics involved is not bad either. 

Rejection

Many a times we wonder we should save ourselves from all these negative words or at least negatively perceived words so as to focus on the brighter side of a situation but I think in this practice of neglecting the negatives we tend to expect too much from the positives.

When we just try to focus on choosing the best ones we tend to miss out on learning more about rejection, which in itself is an amazing skill to work upon.

Rejecting something involves more honest assessment of our requirements and helps us to keep focused unlike choosing the best ones coz the latter is not just mostly influenced but is many a times  misleading as well.

To reject something is more likely to give us clarity on what exactly we want coz it not only removes the clutter  but also leaves us with may be not the best option available but the most appropriate one and hence can put away those unnecessary hiccups which otherwise is due to the misconception between what’s best and what’s apt.  

So strive to be appropriately best and not just THE BEST!